Peer Pressure 这件小事，知乎和Quora 上的同龄人怎么看？

So a holistic life is not possible when there is thought, time, and the desire for identification and for roots. They prevent a way of living that is whole, complete. You hear the statement, and your question then will be, ‘How shall I stop thinking?’ It is a natural question, isn’t it?
所以，当思想、时间以及对认同和根基的渴望依然存在时，完整的生活就不可能实现。它们妨碍了完整的、整体的生活方式出现。你听到了这个说法，然后你就会问：“我要如何停止思考呢？”这是一个很自然的问题，不是吗？ 参与北京英语角活动一起来探讨吧~~

You know that time is necessary to learn a skill, a language, or a technical subject. But you have also just begun to realize that the ‘becoming’, the moving from ‘what is’ to ‘what should be’, involves time, and that it may be totally wrong, it may not be true.
你知道时间对于学习一门技能、一门语言或者一个技术上的学科是必要的。但你也开始意识到“成为”、从“现在如何”到“应该如何”的这种运动中也包含了时间，而这种时间也许是完全错误的，也许是不真实的。

So you begin to question. Or do you just say, ‘I don’t understand what you are talking about but I will go along with it’? Which is actually what is taking place. Honesty, like humility, is one of the most important things. When a vain man cultivates humility, that humility is part of vanity. But humility has nothing to do with vanity, with pride. It is a state of the mind that says, ‘I don’t know what I am, let me inquire’, and never says, ‘I know.’
于是你开始质疑。还是你只是说，“我不明白你在讲什么，但我会带走这个说法”？这就是实际上正在发生的事情。诚实，就像谦卑一样，是最重要的东西之一。当一个虚荣的人培养谦卑，那谦卑就是虚荣的一部分。但谦卑实际上与虚荣、与骄傲毫无关系。那是这样的一种心灵状态：它会说“我不知道自己现在如何，让我来探究一下”，而绝不会说“我知道了。” 北京外教一对一教你英语聊天

Now, you have listened to the fact that all time is now. You may agree or you may not agree. That is a dreadful thing—agreeing and disagreeing. Why should we agree or disagree? The fact is that the sun rises in the east; you don’t agree or disagree with it.
现在，你已经听到了这个事实：所有的时间都是现在。你也许会同意，也许会不同意。这真是一件致命的事情——同意和不同意。我们为什么要同意或者不同意呢？太阳会从东方升起，这是一个事实，对此你不需要同意或者不同意。

So can we put aside our conditioning of agreeing and disagreeing so that we both can look at facts, so that there is no division between those who agree and those who do not? Then there is only seeing things as they are. You may say, ‘I don’t see’, but that is a different matter. Then we can go into why you don’t see. But when we enter into the area of agreement and disagreement, we become more and more confused. The speaker has said our lives are fragmented, our ways of thinking are fragmented.
所以，我们能不能抛开我们同意不同意的制约，这样我们双方就都能看着事实，于是就没有了同意和不同意的人之间的分裂？这样的话就只剩下如实地看到事情本身。你可以说，“我没看到”，但那就是另外一回事了。然后我们就可以来看看你为什么没看到。然而，当我们进入了同意不同意的领域，我们的思维方式就会变得支离破碎。

You are a businessman, you earn lots and lots of money and then you build a temple or give to charity. See the contradiction in it. We are never deeply honest with ourselves—not honest in order to be something else or to understand something else. But to be clear and to have an absolute sense of honesty is to have no illusions.
你是一个生意人，你赚了很多很多钱，然后你建了一座寺庙或者捐献给慈善事业。看看这其中的矛盾。我们从来没有对自己真正诚实过——不是为了成为别的什么或者领悟别的什么才诚实，而是保持清晰，拥有一种绝对的诚实感，那就是没有任何幻觉。

If you tell a lie, you tell a lie and you know it and say, ‘I have told a lie’, and do not cover it up. When you are angry, you are angry and you say that you are angry. You do not find causes, explanations for it, or try to get rid of it. This is absolutely necessary if you are going to inquire into much deeper things, as we are doing now. Not make a fact into an idea but to remain with the fact—that requires very clear perception.
如果你说了谎，那你就是说了谎，你知道这一点，然后你说“我说谎了”，而不把它掩盖起来。当你生气时，你就是生气了，然后你说你生气了。你不去为它寻找借口、寻找解释，也不试图消除它。如果你想探究更为深刻的事情，就像我们现在所做的这样，那么这一点就是绝对必要的。不要把事实变成概念，而是与事实待在一起——而这需要非常清晰的洞察。

That Benediction is Where You Are, Talk 2
《生命的所有可能》，“学习聆听的艺术”